082 FIFM – It’s Not About Winning… It’s About Learning

Freedom in Five Minutes Podcast

In this episode, you’ll learn why winning is not always important.  the more you win the less you learn.  That seems counter-intuitive but when you are constantly winning it means that you are in your comfort zone.

Often, what we need in order to grow are opportunities where we don’t win so that we can see where some of our week spots are.  Difficulties open your eyes to the facts of where you are at right now and what you need to work on in order to open the door to the next level.

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Automated Transcript Below:

Dean Soto 0:00
Hey, this is Dean Soto founder of freedominfiveminutes.com. And we’re here with another freedom in five minutes episode. Today’s topic is this. It’s not about winning. It’s about learning that and more coming up.

Alright, so

while you’re listening to this, I might have already completed it. I don’t

know, I don’t know if I’m going to post it. But after before, whatever. But anyway, for those who’ve been listening for a while, I have a Brazilian jujitsu tournament. That’s right, less than,

what about two months ago, two months ago,

I had set a 90 day goal a 90 day target, to compete in a Brazilian Jiu Jitsu tournament, this is something that I have never done, at least from the I’ve never done any type of Bry Brazilian jujitsu, I take that back, I did a little bit while I was in the military, very, very little. But one of the targets was to actually compete in a tournament, well, guess what? It is right around the corner, literally right around the corner, I will be heading out tomorrow. And then the next day is the tournament. And so by the time you hear this, I might be at the tournament or might just be after I’m not sure exactly when I’m going to post this one. But either way, it is very, very close. So So the thing about this, and it relates to business, big time is that we’re put in positions where we are we have a lot of pressure. So this tournament is a lot of pressure. So it’s down in San Diego, I got a I’m actually driving down with my Brazilian Jiu Jitsu coach from from Fresno ultimate martial arts over here. And he is so kind to actually come down and do this with me. He

made himself available.

We’re driving down together, we’re staying in Airbnb, then doing the tournament and driving back that same night. So it’s going to be a very interesting, interesting how my fingers are hurting from Brazilian jujitsu, jujitsu.

It’s going to be a very interesting next couple days.

So one of the things that a lot of people keep on asking me is, Are you nervous? Are you nervous? Are you nervous? Are you? Are you nervous? And yeah, I’m a little bit nervous, for sure. But ultimately, this whole thing is I, I really do not expect to be the white belt, white belt, jujitsu tournament champion of the world.

We’ve been doing this two months,

yeah, I’ve gotten pretty good at it. But ultimately, it is to see what I have to learn to mainly to learn how, how to how to be how to work under pressure, how to how to act with acting in, in a way where, where you’re, it’s something completely new. Because this literally is something completely new, I’ve never really done tournament like this. I think I did it once when I was in karate back when I was really, really, really little. But I have not really done something like this before. And then on top of that, when you’re when you are going against people in the same gym that you’re in, you get used to how everybody works, right, and how everybody does,

has their technique and everything like that. So

you start getting used to those things. So this is somebody who is completely different. I don’t know how that they, how they roll, literally, I don’t know how they roll. And so it’s going to be something completely new. And the cool thing is, they don’t know how I roll either. So we’re kind of coming in this completely blind. And so yeah, I’m nervous. But ultimately, this is going to be a really cool fun learning experience. And I actually get to spend time with my coach and, and talk and, and find out more about him and it will just be it’ll be really good. But to get to this, I had to do a lot of different things. Namely, to cut weight, I actually ended up cutting between 12 and 15 pounds to get to a lower weight bracket. And that was one of the ultimate goals of this was to lose weight as well. So it’s there, I’m actually under 200 pounds, which has I have not been under 200 pounds in a while. And so it’s there, we’re we’re rocking, we’re rocking and rolling everything like that. So why is this important? Dean? Why? Why are you even talking about all of this stuff? This is there, there really is not a This doesn’t seem like it’s a business application? Well, here is the reason why it’s important. All right, is that when you set targets, specifically 3060 or 90 day targets, and you put them in a way that where they’re going to hold you accountable. And they’re very specific and very measured, you will end up either hitting the target exceeding the target or coming dang close to the target. I I’m about halfway to my financial target for the next 90 days, for 90 days, I still have about a month left to hit hit this, but but my financial target, I’m doing way better way better than I would have if I didn’t set that 90 day target. Right? For for my spiritual target. I’m already set with that. That one, I just need to set my mic, I’m developing a ministry type thing. And then for my for my family, that one has been going and I just need to set I don’t want to say what it is because if my wife listens to the show know what it is. But all that being said, this type of stuff, like when you put pressure on yourself. So say if say you tell a customer that you’re going to do something by a certain time, or you you are set a target for yourself that you’re going to have x amount of ads running by this this time or that time, you put yourself in a situation where you are forced to perform. Okay, you put yourself in a situation where you are forced to perform. And more often than not, you’re going to needed that stress is good stress. It sucks, because it’s nice to just hang back and do nothing. But this stress is good stress. Right? And so I challenge you right now, do you have 30 6090 day targets? Do you have measurable targets for those things, 90 day targets, something that’s measurable. So for example, rather than something that where it’s I want to go from 200 pounds to 180. Rather than doing that it’s I want to compete in a Jiu Jitsu tournament, or I want to run a marathon within the next 90 days or doing Iron Man or do something like that. That type of measured target will get you to that desired outcome. Okay, if you don’t have one of those right now, I challenge you to make one to make one, make the little five minute decision that hey, even if it’s just one thing, know what I want to lose weight, I’m going to run a marathon in 90 days, I’m going to find a marathon and I’m going to register for it and go. For me it was I’m going to do a tournament, register for it and go, right. closest one was San Diego. And that was a long, it’s a long drive but no excuses, right. And so, so this is where it becomes so important because it forces you to grow in a rate that you would that will blow your mind. Right? The simple decision, the simple target will force you to grow in ways that you never thought you could before. And will keep you from being static, and stagnant.

Which is what is exactly what happens when you don’t have a target when you don’t have outcomes. You don’t have goals and things like that that you want to set. Right. So I challenge you to do that right now to set set a target even if it’s just one that might be a business target it might be it might be a body target, it might be a spiritual or a family target. Just set one made a decision right now to set one. Take the five minutes to write it down what it’s going to be when you’re going to do it and move forward with it. Alright, alright, so this is Dean Soto with freedom and five minutes. Man we got some awesome things that are going to be happening over the next few weeks. next few months as well going to have a lot more interviews from people already have interviews lined up. So there’s going to be a lot more people who are joining us on this podcast. And of course we’ll have a lot more stories and things to help you make some amazing business decisions strategic business decisions that you can implement that you can start going forward and moving in five minutes or less get it started let’s go that’s the biggest thing is to get it started. So is Dean Soto with the freedom in five minutes podcast. I will catch you in the next episode.

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