Sometimes, we look back at some of the untrue things that people tell us. Now, it’s not that they lied intentionally. Most probably, they must have had good intentions and trying to give good advice but had no idea they were untrue.
In this episode, I talk about my journey with people who gave me advice without meaning to be dishonest and how I realized I don’t have to do things like everyone else!
Overview & Episode Content
- What Happens if You Tell a Kid Their Idea is Wrong?
- Defying People Who Say You’re Wrong When You Know You’re Right
- Planting an Idea – There’s Always a Simpler Way to Do Things
- Get Out of Groupthink and Explore Ideas Outside the Box
- Research Better Ideas to Build a Better Business
What Happens if You Tell a Kid Their Idea is Wrong?
As far as I can remember, I was a very bad student. I just did not fit in well at school because I did not like it. And I do not think it was because I was a dummy — at least I hope I was not.
When I was very young, I was tested so they could put me into GATE which is for smart people I guess. I remember being in the Assistant Principal’s office at Clegg Elementary School in Huntington Beach.
Apparently, I passed all other tests except for one puzzle. The objective was putting together a girl. I was given all the pieces, and I had to put the girl in free form on a table.
At the very end, I put the girl’s legs so that her feet were both attached. When I saw her, I put her legs with her feet facing inward. Have you ever seen in most comic books when the girls are trying to be very girly and pretty? My idea was to draw her feet inward, just like how I saw them in comic books.
Well, apparently that was wrong! At least according to him.
So he said, “No, no, no. The feet go outward. You cannot be in GATE. You cannot be with smart people.”
And so, I started my journey of absolutely hating and loathing school – at least public school. It was the beginning of the end from that point forward.
I was nothing but trouble every year after because I was extremely bored and I just could not handle it, except for eighth grade.
Defying People Who Say You’re Wrong When You Know You’re Right
In eighth grade, I resolved my hating and loathing of school. I was actually doing the work and learned.
That time, I did what they wanted me to do because my poor grandma at the time was like, “I cannot handle this.”
So, I ended up getting on the honor roll in eighth grade. I did really well until I got into freshman year where I had an encounter with Mr. Wilford of Marina High School. He is probably still there.
Mr. Wilford taught electronics. I was pretty excited and wanted to keep going and get honor rolls. Electronics class sounded really interesting. I thought it was going to be great.
Then, we got his test. The test instruction was to pick the answer from a list. Each answer was assigned a letter. Logically, there was no way to pick an answer twice because each answer from the list matches with a question or problem.
So, I finished my test and almost got a perfect score. The reason I did not get a perfect score on this test was that my letter T had a little bit of a hook on it. And so, Mr. Wilford said it was wrong.
“That’s an F that you’re trying to do right there,” he said.
I said, “No, it’s not an F that I’m trying to do — I did an F over here. It could not possibly be an F because you can only have one letter for every answer. Sometimes that’s just the way my T’s come out. It has a tiny little hook.”
Alas, he would not change his mind. I was livid! After that, I was done. The injustice of it all! If that was how it was going to be, so be it.
From there, I was back to being a horrible student. Throughout that time, I constantly hear about my family’s disappointment.
Planting an Idea – There’s Always a Simpler Way to Do Things
I was disobeying my grandma at the time and I totally get why the family was upset with me. Close to my senior years, they said, “Dean, you know what? You’re gonna go to adult school.”
I’m like, “Okay, great. Now I’m a dum-dum. I’ve already been beaten down already. Might as well beat me down some more.”
So, I got to an adult school and I see just one building. One small building with an open room and large desks everywhere.
At the moment, I thought it was an interesting place. So, I went for the orientation.
They said, “Yeah, all you do is you go and get a packet from whatever class you want to get credit for. You get the packet and you start doing the work. Feel free to spend as much time as you need, just go ahead and start to open it up.”
Also, there were teachers on the outer rim of the class and above them were signs that read which subject they handle.
“They’ll be able to help you if you have any questions. Also, they’ll be the ones that grade your tests,” they said in the orientation.
Then, I told them, “You’re telling me that I can just go grab one of the packets? And if it takes me a week to do it, I get the semester credit?“
“Yeah. As long as it takes for you to actually do it. You get it.” they said.
And then, I was mind blown! What the heck?! Why did nobody tell me about this idea? They all said you had to go through high school. I asked if I can actually get my high school diploma doing this.
And they said yes — not GED though — but I could definitely get my high school diploma. It was crazy! I blew through my packets and I wish I knew about this adult school earlier.
Get Out of Groupthink and Explore Ideas Outside The Box
Later on, I came to find out that the same type of thing can happen in college with CLEP Testing — College Level Examination Program Testing. So, I did the same thing in college. All I had to do was go take this two-hour test and I’ll get credit for my lower-division classes.
It was awesome and I blew through those too. Also, it was 100 bucks each. I didn’t have to pay to have to go to a semester’s worth of college and anything that I didn’t pass. That was around the time when online stuff started coming out at Coastline Community College.
Over and over again, to this day even in business, I see that same thing happening.
People tell you their ideas, “You have to do it this way. This is the only way it must be done. Everybody has to do it this way. If you don’t do it. You’re bad.”
And 99% of the time, these people are wrong. This is all through life.
All throughout my experiences, most of what I have been taught is B.S. But were those people lying to me? Some might have, but most of those people did not know any better and even had good intentions.
It does not matter from who the words or the idea came from. The important thing is to take the time to do some research and you might find something better for you.
Research Better Ideas to Build a Better Business
Now, there are a lot of things that I have done that I didn’t know any better. The idea that we are trusting and readily listening to what is essentially the status quo is terrible.
I have found out that with just a little bit of research, better ways of doing things can be found. But that does not mean that the people who tell you things are lying to you. It’s just groupthink.
You want to have as little groupthink as possible. Get away from the groupthink! By doing that, you are thinking outside the box and you can start building businesses that automate themselves, businesses that are way different than anything else that is out there.
This is why we have the VSAs at ProSulum.com and FreedomInFiveMinutes.com. These people can do tasks for you much faster and better. It is a cheaper way of building your business than your typical hire-an-employee.
I challenge you this week. If there is something with your kids or with your business, where you feel like, “Oh, it has to be this way.”
Stop and take time to examine the situation for a little bit. Find out whether or not it’s true that it has to be in that certain way.
More often than not, you’re going to find that it’s absolutely not true. And there’s a much faster, easier way of doing stuff.
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This has been Dean Soto of Freedom In Five Minutes and I will see you in the next Freedom In Five Minutes Podcast episode.